The personality is the typical
pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviours that make a person unique. When we
say that someone has a "good personality" we mean that they are
likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with. Everyone wants to be attractive
to others. To that end, having a good personality is vital. In fact, the
success and happiness will be a result of how well you interact with others.
While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the ability to
improve the personality as much as we want. We can develop or integrate into
our personalities any trait we deem fitting and agreeable.
Firstly,
be a better listener. Jacqueline
Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world
because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She was
known for the way she would look a person in the eyes, hang on their every
word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having
someone listen to you intently making you feel like you're the only person in
the world.
Next,
be a good conversationalist. This
relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute,
learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read about or know
everything, so it's refreshing to learn from others those things we don't have
the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a group like
Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.
Besides
that, have an opinion. There
is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on
anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on.
If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are
more interesting and stimulating to be with socially (unless you're a
know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone's looking.
Meet
New People. Make
the effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes
you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it broadens
your horizons.
Be
yourself. The
next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something
you're not. Moulding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually
backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what
makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of someone else not only
falls flat, but reveals a lack of authenticity.
Have
a positive outlook and attitude. Who
wants to be around people, who are negative, complaining a lot, or have nothing
good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see them coming. Instead, be the
kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it.
Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Smile warmly, spread good
cheer, and enliven others with your presence.
Be fun and see the humorous side of life. Everyone enjoys the company of
someone who makes them laugh, or smile, so look for the happiness, quirky side
in a situation - there always is one. Comic relief is a much welcome and needed
diversion at times. When you can add fun and enjoy to an otherwise dull or
gloomy setting, others will naturally be attracted to you, not to mention
grateful.
Be
supportive of others. Being
supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your
personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it. We all love a
cheerleader in our corner; someone who is encouraging believes in us and helps
pick us up when we're down.
Have
Integrity and treat people with respect. Being honest and true to your word
will bring you the admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing
improves a person's personality more than respect - respect for others, as well
as respect for you.
We humans have the power and ability
to shape our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to
be more than what we expected to,
we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness will be automatically we can
deserve it.
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